"coaching" of a 55 year old non diagnosed ADHD man on a jobhunt

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Permalink Reply by Mark McKergow on April 18, 2011 at 16:03

Hi Veronika,

 

Thanks for sharing this situation.  As nobody else has responded, I just wanted to say a few words. 

 

Please be very very careful with this.  Coaching family members is a highly difficult situation, especially if there is to be a formal arrangement (it might be easier to do something very informal) - as your multiple connections with this person cannot be fully untangled, however professional you are.  If you really must go ahead (and I advise finding someone else to work with him), then at least get the adhd idea out of your head and meet him in his resources to start with.  Please, think very carefully before getting any more involved here.

 

Cheers, Mark

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Permalink Reply by Veronika Wuyts on April 18, 2011 at 16:10

thanks Mark for getting back to me. about the adhd, that is exactly what i did, erase it. i let him fill in the strengthsfinder 2.0 and that was from the start a good point because we started with his strengths. I told him also about my fear of getting too involved, the family business for which he had full understanding.

I proposed to be a sounding board when he needed it but nothing formal indeed. he went away with a very good feeling and some recognition by himself for himself.

thanks again for your feedback, take care :) 

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Permalink Reply by Mark McKergow on April 18, 2011 at 16:51

Hi Veronika

Well done.  Sounds like you found a way to give him a little support without getting too involved. 

 

Cheers, Mark 

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