I was sent this very nice quote by Kamila Novokova a few weeks ago. I think it sums up quite a lot about SF practice, and also how to act not-knowingly and still to act. It comes from the part where Treebeard, an ent (tree-shepherd), is carrying Merry and Pippin. They are very unsure about what's going on, having never seen an ent before...
Merry: "Would you think it rude, if we asked what you are going to do with us, and which side you are on?"
Treebeard: "'I am not going to do anything with you: not if you mean by that 'do something to you' without your leave. We might do some things together. I don't know about sides. I go my own way; but your way may go along with mine for a while."